I have a simple rule for life with teenagers. When a kid starts getting argumentative or difficult, I pray.
It’s always the same prayer: Holy Spirit, give me the words.
I pray it before I speak. Holy Spirit, give me the words. Sometimes I need it each time I open my mouth: Holy Spirit, give me the words.
At times I hear wise things coming out of my lips, calm observations that I know were not in my head even a split second before. Other times nothing comes to mind, and I know to be silent.
Holy Spirit, give me the words.